Because of my commitment to personal development and discovery of my life purpose, I have come across many methodologies and practices that have made a huge difference to my development. One of them is the Landmark Forum.
The Landmark Forum has enabled me to step outside of the imaginary cage I found myself in from the day I was born.
It is very clear to me now that I possess all the characteristics of a human being, however they do not determine who I am. I can embrace the impact of those characteristics that shape my life without being a victim of it.
It is like experiencing a storm. The storm is there, it is happening, however I am not the storm. I just need to learn how to manage it.
I have a body, but I am not it.
It all began in October 1993 when I walked into the Landmark Forum in London, England.
I had no idea what to expect. I was curious!
My life seemed to work. I had a well paid job, even though I was facing great challenges due to organisational changes. I had a marriage where we were together physically but there was an emotional distance caused by past events. I had two sons I loved dearly but my fear of not being a good enough mother was between us.
I had a family I loved and they loved me but I experienced resentment, bitterness, unfairness and not being wanted.
I had friends but the fear of inadequacy and the impact of continuous comparison got in the way. And so on…….. To me that was normal, I expected it to be that way, I convinced myself that it was the way life is.
During the Landmark Forum I opened my eyes and saw something I had never seen before. I started to see what was actually happening.
What I thought to be the reality, was just the result of my own imagination and that I had created my soap opera and I was the main character.
I realised that there are two possible worlds. The world of a what is predictable and the possibility of something else. I was gaining the ability and power to separate these two worlds and realising that it is in the separation of these two worlds that life happens. Real power is experienced in the ability and in the process of choosing between the two.
During the Landmark Forum I accepted that I had become what I hated the most in myself! Being a complainer. I complained about everything and the more I tried not to complain, the more I did it. It was so frustrating and debilitating.
The moment I accepted that although my complaints were valid, I was blaming something outside of me for my experiences. As soon as I took responsibility for them and recognised that I was at the source of my complaints, something else became available.
This was re-enforced when I also realised the impact of language. The type of language I used and how I communicated my complaints, both to myself and others, were the linchpins in the quality of my life. I had something valid to communicate, however the choice of words and the way I communicated caused the misunderstanding and conflict in my communications.
I realised that by managing the choice of words and the way I communicate, I am able to experience freedom, love and compassion for myself and my fellow human beings.
Over time I have been able to nurture these qualities that have made my life rich and worth living: forgiveness, love, compassion, gratitude and courage.
I now know there is an alternative to the suffering that I had accepted as normal.
This is what I got from the Landmark Forum.